I want to let you in on a little secret: until this year, I didn’t really get why people needed a gratitude ritual.
I mean, I’m a really grateful person by nature. I love people like crazy and don’t take the positive experiences in my life for granted. I’m already super grateful so why do I need a ritual? Why on earth would I need to add another thing to my already too long to-do list? Taking time to write out what I’m grateful for felt kind of pointless.
But I was wrong. Dead wrong.
At the beginning of this year, I had a phase where I’d get a bad feeling that something was lacking. I was stressed to the max. It had nothing to do with material goods—I knew I had enough stuff (actually, too much that’s why I recently sold 90% of what I owned, including my house, to travel for a year). I didn’t have enough, and I had too many demands. My to-do list was endless, which caused me to feel “lacking” instead of “abundant” no matter how many things I checked off my list.
Along with creating a to-don’t list (I’ll write more about that later), I carved out a little gratitude ritual to help me. It was the exact shift I needed, and it was immediate relief!
I’m a rituals girl. They are my lifeline. And of all my rituals, the gratitude practice may be my favorite. You may have a morning ritual or an exercise practice–but do you have a gratitude practice?
Gratitude has proven physiological and psychological benefits, including:
With that, here’s my own super simple gratitude practice that can change your life.
I like to do this in the evening right before bed, but you can find a time that works best for you. The most important thing is consistency.
1. Get a small notebook that will be your dedicated gratitude notebook. The notebook is key because it’s important to actually put pen to paper in rituals instead of typing. The mind-body connect of handwriting your gratitude amplifies the benefits, kind of like making a home-cooked meal is always better for you than a store-bought one.
2. Keep it at your nightstand, or another place that you return to every day at the same time. Maybe the coffee pot so you can jot what you’re grateful for as your coffee brews. You may find that you’re often grateful for coffee.
3. Every night (or morning), write the date at the top of the page.
4. Set intentions. Tell yourself you’ll write for a set amount of time. It can be for fifteen minutes. It can be for two minutes. I find that in the beginning, it might take longer, but as your ritual becomes a habit even just two minutes works.
5. In that set time, write what you’re grateful for. Anything that comes to mind is fair game. Anything from “big stuff” like health, spouse, family members, to “small stuff” like almond milk lattes, the awesome new playlist for your workouts, that you could afford your dentist appointment this month.
The journal will become a record of your gratitude. With each entry, you are putting a coin into your gratitude bank, and over time you’ll have a nice savings.
The practice is centering and calming for me and reminds me of what is most important in life.
Grab a notebook today and put a reminder on your phone. Rituals take dedication and focus to build in the beginning, but if you stick with it for at least two weeks, it will start becoming second nature. And when that happens, you’ll be on your way to a new attitude and less stressed day.
Instead of prescribing what I think you should do, I help you find what works for you.